We share our problems and adversaries to the one we love most. We even share our deep secrets to the one we trust. By doing so people tend to get hurt every now and then because the person who knows your secret might use it in the negative impression and break your heart. There is always a risk when someone tells his private life to his friend.
How about husband and wife? How about them? Do they have to fear each other and don't tell each other secrets. I think when it comes to your partner in life, your wedded husband or wife, the story is different.
There is some part of the story that will share the points we discussed above due to the facts that after all we all are humans and humans are spiritual, emotional, physical, psychological, social beings. Therefore there is some part imperfection in us and then and the person you love and trust most will hurt you, even worse break your heart, every now and then.
The story is different because we are not talking about some ordinary friend. It is your husband or wife we are talking about. How do you hide your thoughts, feelings, emotion and even your secretes from him/her?
We are not only talking about whether to tell or not to tell but also we need to have wisdom what to tell and when to tell and how to tell and why to tell. When it comes to what to tell, we don't actually tell everything to everyone. There are some things that are not to be told to everybody. We need to keep private things private.
So what to tell depends on why to tell. Before we say something lets ask ourselves why we would say that. So if we want to tell it because we think it will benefit our friend so that he will learn from our experience. But then ok we have a good thing to tell and we should tell it but is it the right time to tell it?
So we have to know when to tell it. That is why we are about to find the right moment in all of those available times. Words that are often spoken at the right moment are like olive oil on a wounded body. Timing is all about it.
So it is very important before we speak any word from our mouth to stop and think for a moment that we actually know what we are talking about because we know what to talk, why to talk, when to talk and how to talk and for whom to talk.
The last part is for whom is the most important one. It is that little wisdom we need before we talk. The audience, the listener part is very important. It is important because like we start from the beginning, we need to know what to speak for whom and vise versa.
There is a verse from the Bible that specifically tells us not to throw our valuable things in to the wrong place. No body throws his diamonds and gold in the trash instead it will put it in a more safe and valuable place. When we talk to people of this world, we don't just tell them that we are baptized with the Holy Spirit and we are full of the spirit.
That will be like garbage for them and any of their non sense replies will definitely hurt some part of our faith in Christ. So when we come face to face with ungodly man, we talk to him about the love of God and how God gave his son to death because he loves us all the same but not about the power of the holy spirit that is manifested in us. That doesn't mean we should never talk about it but it means there is time for that too.
If we know these things and if we strictly follow the guidance of the Holy Ghost, then we will learn that no one will ever cause harm to us because of the word that comes out of our mouth.
God bless you for reading this blog about truthfulness and honesty.